10 Steps for Releasing The Negative
ARCHETYPAL INTEGRATION
10 Steps for Releasing the Negative
By Fiona Ellis | Originally published January 2024 | Updated March 2026
Release.
Some days are just sh!t. You know the ones — when everything you try to do seems to backfire, the people you've been trying to help turn on you, and the past you thought long buried rears its ugly head.
Those days where it seems no matter how hard you try to stay in your vortex, all you seem to attract are negative, angry, spiteful, fearful people trying to bring you back down into their drama.
Where everything that could go wrong does, from spilling your coffee to stubbing your toe. And those moments where you just want to say to the Angels "where the hell were you?! I thought we were in this together! I'm done with this empath sh*t"...
Those are the days when releasing and grounding is not just necessary — it is essential. The only way to regain our stability.
Unfortunately, because most of us were never taught this, instead of grounding and releasing the energy in these moments, we tend to insulate and suppress with food, alcohol, cigarettes — or any unresourceful addiction.
The best kind of grounding in these moments is conscious earthing — because this is reliant solely on us and unlike other methods, it can't "hurt" anyone in the heat of the moment.
This matters because for many of us the reason we suppress and insulate in the first place is because speaking out in anger hurts people, and feeling their pain does nothing to relieve ours. As a consequence, we have usually taken on a role of peacekeepers or caretakers within our social circles.
The more we internalise the negative energy, the harder it becomes to keep the peace — and if we do, it always comes at the expense of our health and happiness.
For years we've been taught to reach for happiness, which is not in itself wrong — but how we get there is often underestimated. Toxic Positivity, where we ignore the bad, is just as damaging in the long term as only focusing on the negative. It is about honouring ALL emotions and then moving through the process from where we are to where we want to be.
To me, there are many incremental yet very important steps and unless we go through them all, chances are we're denying or suppressing an element of truth designed to help us — and those around us — grow.
The 10 Steps
1Accept
If we deny anything is wrong then the negative perpetuates. This is especially a problem if the negative is someone's behaviour — if they never receive feedback then they can never change their behaviour.
2Release / Earth / Ground
Acceptance without release is what causes us to suppress and gather up little annoyances and turn them into a big meltdown over what seems like nothing to everyone else.
The important part of releasing is to give us time to sort through the emotional energy we have gathered and let go of everything that doesn't belong to us. Being a lightworker, we find it very easy to come back to love and compassion — it is the negative energy we have collected from others that clouds our judgement in the moment.
Do any activity that physically releases the energy: walking in nature is best, but if that is not possible then walk anywhere, or pull weeds, do dishes, cry, swim, play with a pet, have a shower with Epsom salts, or get yourself a grass hug.
3Find Purpose
If we choose to believe everything happens for a reason then we have power. Take the power and find the lesson in the silver lining.
4Bring Compassion
For the messenger. I like to remember the story of the sun and the soul when I have a negative experience with someone — if they knew better, they'd do better. So we must have a contract to teach each other something. Bring compassion to that.
5Find Humour
Let the laughter out! No matter how grumpy you were, something silly or funny always happens because our angels are always giving us pathways back to joy. Accept it. Giggle.
6Find Gratitude
If we created this situation to teach us something, then we can bring even more gratitude to the lessons we receive — the fact that we now have a chance to improve, the fact that we are the ones capable of helping the other person learn and grow.
7Choose Love
Come into full love and light alignment knowing all emotions and clarity left are ours and our real work can begin.
8Find Truth
Decipher with a clear mind the best truth to help all parties. Direct feedback if necessary, or something learned to share with others. Remember — not everyone is open to the feedback, so share it but do not get attached to whether they take it.
9Share Message
Coming from your place of love, share the message with those who need it and can learn from it. This is conscious transfer — the moment your processing becomes a gift to someone else.
10Notice Shifts + Feel Great
Notice how many people benefit from the shared message. Gather reference points for success to remind you to keep at it. It is a wonderful feeling to have great energy ourselves AND help others have great energy too — which is what comes from conscious transfer.
A Note from Fiona — March 2026
I originally wrote this process in January 2024. I have used every single one of these steps — multiple times a day — in the past twenty days of documenting the 2026 US-Israel-Iran War. If you have found this page through my Knox Vision briefing documents or the "Everything You Weren't Taught" series, this is where to start. Release the wave first. Then redirect the power to where the world most needs it.
If you need more support processing what you are reading in the current news cycle, please also read my Personal Note — Please Start Here.
Need More Help?
If you are being knocked off course a little too frequently, maybe it is time to face, feel and heal the past wounds and deeper mental and emotional limits that are holding you back from the future you deserve.
Or explore the Archetypal Wounds Oracle Deck for self-guided integration work
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